Blog

What lead rein do you have?

Lead rein is a fun thing. It can be used for almost anything, which also means that they, just like socks in the washing machine, can disappear completely and mysteriously. I do not know how many lead reines I have bought through the ages but I know that many lead rein sellers have earned a good penny on me. The lead reins can later appear, such as tying a gate, hanging the salt stone, buckets, etc., but then they are no longer usable as lead reins. Both trainees and myself have seen them as “good to have things” to help a little everywhere. The problem is when the favorit lead rein disappears.

It has probably taken many hours to locate where it has gone!

Now we come to the serios part of the post: What’s your favorite lead rein? Be honest with yourself. Is it the color, is it the length, is it the material or the carabiner that is flexible and good to use?

Unfortunately, with my start on the post I want to point out how easy it is for a lead rein to disappear and therefore you would not like to spend some big money on one. That’s stupid, I’ve experienced that many times. How much can not happen when you lead the horse in a bad lead rein? It needs to have a good length, so you can get away if the horse should rear or jump away. It needs to be good quality, not nylon, so you do not burn your fingers if the horse jumps to the side and the carabiner needs to work well, so you are able to open it quickly, without it being too loose so it goes up by itself.

So the lead rein is invaluable in handling the horse and everyday obstacles, so buy your best favorites in the future, even if some should disappear

Why is it not good to “pretend” not to be afraid?

When I was a child and young, and for example had fallen off or had something to do with the horse, you were only told that you would get up again immediately.

It’s true that focus helps one to be less afraid, but it does not help your brain and body to understand what happened. The trust between horse and human is not repaired and the event is stored in the brain as a failure.

The brain is a database and you may not feel it immediately, but the event may come up later in life along with a lot of other “failures”. This is when you start to avoid certain situations such as riding. It can come as a total stop or it can start with you sweeping the stable an extra time to fake that you do not have time to ride.

Anxiety can build on and all of a sudden you do not understand that you, who have been totally fearless before and ridden a lot of horses, do not dare to sit on the kind horse that is in the stable.

It is important then to build trust in oneself and one’s horse in that situation. It requires some time and a step-by-step program, where you slowly get back to the state you want to be in, that is, to be safe with your horse and that you trust each other.

This is where I can help both mentally and physically with a fantastic program that has helped so many. Contact me if you have a problem you want to discuss.The call is free and you can order it easily here: anneaxell.com/appointment

Do you think it’s scary to gallop?

Our brains are there to protect us and not do dangerous things. Sometimes we can “cheat” it when the tension draws more than the fear, this is what we call horror-mixed delight.

Some love the speed and some find it dangerous to gallop. It’s a lot about us wanting control. When it goes fast and the horse may like to run or resort to flight behavior, we lose control and especially if the horse is difficult to stop again.

Learning to ride right, becoming friends with the horse, trusting each other takes time. It is often a question of missing something along the way and not learning properly, not taking it step by step and not learning the right body language and above all it is a matter of trusting the horse.

But how should I trust the horse when it just runs and can not be stopped, you might think. Yes, then maybe you and the horse have not learned to work together, maybe you have been in a bit of a hurry.
In today’s world, everything has to go fast and we humans have a tendency to make too great demands, both on ourselves and also on the horses. Sometimes you have to go back to make it work and work on the relationship.

A good way to get to know the horse and also yourself, is to work the horse from the ground. Body control is also very important, if you do not show what you want, it is difficult for the horse to decide what to do.

Take things at your own pace, do not let others control you 🙂

How do you talk to your horse?
As a psychologist / therapist, you should preferably not say no or negative words when talking to a person who should have better self-confidence and desire to live.

How often do you say no to your horse?

Not only with your voice but also with your gestures and body language!

We are eager for the horse to understand us and do as we please, but are we willing to change ourselves in the process? To succeed with the horse is not only to adapt your language but also your thought and way of being.

The horse is your mirror and to see something nice and beautiful in the mirror, the person standing in front of the mirror must be able to show his open face and his good soul.

Start examining yourself today and listen to what signals you give the horse, when it does not want to listen to you.

International Women’s Day!
No one is as strong as a horsewoman!

If you have horses, you learn to be a leader, take responsibility, have empathy and much more. However, it can backfire if you have too much around you and the brain ghosts suddenly take over and we become afraid of what we love most.

It is not uncommon to be afraid to ride, but still want to get on the horse again, or afraid of his best friend in the stable and not understand why.

It happened to me and if it has happened to you, then let me help you on the right keel again. I have amassed a lot of tools that are effective and have a lifetime of experience with horses, so I know I can help you.

Do not hesitate, order a free call at www.anneaxell.com/appointment

You have everything to gain and nothing to lose except a little time 🙂

How should I be able to ride when it is raining-blowing-snowing-is mud-slippery and so on?

You may not need to ride that day, you can always come up with other things if you want to spend time with your horse.

I just can not stand to groan when the horse is long-haired and has rolled in the mud, you think, but take the hooves instead! You can, for example, teach the horse to take up its hooves even if you are standing on the opposite side. It is excellent therapy to get the horse to lift its legs when doing it in a certain way and very useful.

You can also teach the horse a little trick when it is in the stable and it is not about the trick itself, but to be with the horse. Learn to listen and understand and have a fellowship with it.

Make “boring” days nice days! We have the horse to have fun and get away from everyday life 🙂

This is Liselotte… ..

I just had to share this picture (Liselotte has of course given me permission)

When I spoke to Liselotte for the first time just before New Year’s, she was extremely sad, as she no longer dared to ride her beautiful horse.

Courage had let her down, she was very down and did not know how to get back to her true self. We started working together shortly after New Year’s and this is the result only 1.5 months later.

We will continue a little longer when my program is 3 months, so we are sure that she will not fall back to her sad state again.

I’m so proud of her and she’s totally happy.

This has also changed me as a human being, she says, I am much happier in my everyday life, and long to go out to the horse again. If you yourself have problems and for some reason have become scared or think you have lost your courage, do not hesitate to contact Anne. There is no reason to feel bad but there are many ways to move on.

Get in touch with Anne and order a call at www.anneaxell.com/appointment then I can guide you so you can discover which paths you can take to have an optimal collaboration with your horse. The call is free!

Be kind to yourself!
How often do we not say to ourselves: ohh how stupid in my head I am… ..I have always been bad at that …… I always forget…. Why am I so damn cowardly, and much much more.
If you had talked like that to a friend, you would not have been friends anymore!
Why do we do this?
Why is it so hard to pat ourselves on the back and say: you actually did well today.
If we tell a lie often enough, it will come true! What do you become if you constantly put yourself in the shadows and do not think you know anything?
There is hope:
If you think about it, you can break the habit! You can always find things that you actually can and are good at, you can also find many things to be grateful for. It’s not good to be negative and especially not for long periods of time, so think about what you can say to the friend that makes him happy and then say it to yourself. You gain absolutely nothing by being so hard on yourself, no one thanks you for that!

When the water freezes!
Don’t we all have days like this?

You already know it when you wake up in the morning.

The first thing you do is hit your little toe in the headboard.

When you then go to the stable and notice that the water hose is frozen, even though you have done your best to empty it, even though you have put a blanket over it.

Then you go up and check the water tubs and of course the horses have kicked one apart, to kick holes in the ice, although you have done that and removed the ice before you went to bed.

I have moved to Hungary, just to have less winter (which I also have) but of course, there will be days like this / nights, with frost and misery.

Just can not understand how I endured for several months in Sweden in this way!

How do you do then?

How do you go about not wanting the horses where the pepper grows and not just ignoring everything?

For my own part, I try to think positively, even if it is very difficult in that particular situation. I try to remember something that I can laugh at and try to laugh at myself, what I probably look like in other people’s eyes.

I also tell myself that I do not have to, but I choose to do what I do and usually I can be in a slightly better mood.

It’s a waste of time to be angry and grumpy and if you look long enough, you can always find something you can be grateful for 🙂