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Do you think it’s scary to gallop?

Our brains are there to protect us and not do dangerous things. Sometimes we can “cheat” it when the tension draws more than the fear, this is what we call horror-mixed delight.

Some love the speed and some find it dangerous to gallop. It’s a lot about us wanting control. When it goes fast and the horse may like to run or resort to flight behavior, we lose control and especially if the horse is difficult to stop again.

Learning to ride right, becoming friends with the horse, trusting each other takes time. It is often a question of missing something along the way and not learning properly, not taking it step by step and not learning the right body language and above all it is a matter of trusting the horse.

But how should I trust the horse when it just runs and can not be stopped, you might think. Yes, then maybe you and the horse have not learned to work together, maybe you have been in a bit of a hurry.
In today’s world, everything has to go fast and we humans have a tendency to make too great demands, both on ourselves and also on the horses. Sometimes you have to go back to make it work and work on the relationship.

A good way to get to know the horse and also yourself, is to work the horse from the ground. Body control is also very important, if you do not show what you want, it is difficult for the horse to decide what to do.

Take things at your own pace, do not let others control you 🙂

How do you talk to your horse?
As a psychologist / therapist, you should preferably not say no or negative words when talking to a person who should have better self-confidence and desire to live.

How often do you say no to your horse?

Not only with your voice but also with your gestures and body language!

We are eager for the horse to understand us and do as we please, but are we willing to change ourselves in the process? To succeed with the horse is not only to adapt your language but also your thought and way of being.

The horse is your mirror and to see something nice and beautiful in the mirror, the person standing in front of the mirror must be able to show his open face and his good soul.

Start examining yourself today and listen to what signals you give the horse, when it does not want to listen to you.

International Women’s Day!
No one is as strong as a horsewoman!

If you have horses, you learn to be a leader, take responsibility, have empathy and much more. However, it can backfire if you have too much around you and the brain ghosts suddenly take over and we become afraid of what we love most.

It is not uncommon to be afraid to ride, but still want to get on the horse again, or afraid of his best friend in the stable and not understand why.

It happened to me and if it has happened to you, then let me help you on the right keel again. I have amassed a lot of tools that are effective and have a lifetime of experience with horses, so I know I can help you.

Do not hesitate, order a free call at www.anneaxell.com/appointment

You have everything to gain and nothing to lose except a little time 🙂

How should I be able to ride when it is raining-blowing-snowing-is mud-slippery and so on?

You may not need to ride that day, you can always come up with other things if you want to spend time with your horse.

I just can not stand to groan when the horse is long-haired and has rolled in the mud, you think, but take the hooves instead! You can, for example, teach the horse to take up its hooves even if you are standing on the opposite side. It is excellent therapy to get the horse to lift its legs when doing it in a certain way and very useful.

You can also teach the horse a little trick when it is in the stable and it is not about the trick itself, but to be with the horse. Learn to listen and understand and have a fellowship with it.

Make “boring” days nice days! We have the horse to have fun and get away from everyday life 🙂

This is Liselotte… ..

I just had to share this picture (Liselotte has of course given me permission)

When I spoke to Liselotte for the first time just before New Year’s, she was extremely sad, as she no longer dared to ride her beautiful horse.

Courage had let her down, she was very down and did not know how to get back to her true self. We started working together shortly after New Year’s and this is the result only 1.5 months later.

We will continue a little longer when my program is 3 months, so we are sure that she will not fall back to her sad state again.

I’m so proud of her and she’s totally happy.

This has also changed me as a human being, she says, I am much happier in my everyday life, and long to go out to the horse again. If you yourself have problems and for some reason have become scared or think you have lost your courage, do not hesitate to contact Anne. There is no reason to feel bad but there are many ways to move on.

Get in touch with Anne and order a call at www.anneaxell.com/appointment then I can guide you so you can discover which paths you can take to have an optimal collaboration with your horse. The call is free!

Be kind to yourself!
How often do we not say to ourselves: ohh how stupid in my head I am… ..I have always been bad at that …… I always forget…. Why am I so damn cowardly, and much much more.
If you had talked like that to a friend, you would not have been friends anymore!
Why do we do this?
Why is it so hard to pat ourselves on the back and say: you actually did well today.
If we tell a lie often enough, it will come true! What do you become if you constantly put yourself in the shadows and do not think you know anything?
There is hope:
If you think about it, you can break the habit! You can always find things that you actually can and are good at, you can also find many things to be grateful for. It’s not good to be negative and especially not for long periods of time, so think about what you can say to the friend that makes him happy and then say it to yourself. You gain absolutely nothing by being so hard on yourself, no one thanks you for that!

When the water freezes!
Don’t we all have days like this?

You already know it when you wake up in the morning.

The first thing you do is hit your little toe in the headboard.

When you then go to the stable and notice that the water hose is frozen, even though you have done your best to empty it, even though you have put a blanket over it.

Then you go up and check the water tubs and of course the horses have kicked one apart, to kick holes in the ice, although you have done that and removed the ice before you went to bed.

I have moved to Hungary, just to have less winter (which I also have) but of course, there will be days like this / nights, with frost and misery.

Just can not understand how I endured for several months in Sweden in this way!

How do you do then?

How do you go about not wanting the horses where the pepper grows and not just ignoring everything?

For my own part, I try to think positively, even if it is very difficult in that particular situation. I try to remember something that I can laugh at and try to laugh at myself, what I probably look like in other people’s eyes.

I also tell myself that I do not have to, but I choose to do what I do and usually I can be in a slightly better mood.

It’s a waste of time to be angry and grumpy and if you look long enough, you can always find something you can be grateful for 🙂

Are you in a hurry in the stable or are you taking your time?

For my own part, I think that adult life means a lot of “musts”. The stable must be clean, the horses taken care of, the home must be clean, supper, etc.

A while ago I came to myself and thought about how you felt as a child.

You had all the time in the world for the horse, you could spend hours grooming or just sitting in the pasture and watching them.

In recent years, I have come back to it more, give it time, do some useless things and feel much better.

We have the horses because we feel good when we hang out with them, so do it and let go of these “musts”

What does your brain tell you when you are going to saddle the horse?

I hope he’s in a good mood and not throwing me off today? Should I lung before sitting up? It’s just a little walking and trotting, I’m not ready for a gallop?

Or does it say: Geez what fun it will be, I just long? Think now can we start training a little on the new exercise? Ohhh just have to ride out a turn in the woods, it’s such nice weather?

There is a big difference in what the brain can tell you how to feel. It is actually possible to teach the brain to be positive and with that you get a much better feeling and also a much better and more fun riding. Would you like to change your mindset and get a better ride?

Order a free call at anneaxell.com/appointment then I can help you make a plan to improve your thoughts, your riding, your life 🙂